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How do you see love?

How do you see love?
Constantly hearing things like

“Love starts with you”

“Love comes from within”

“Learn to love yourself”

or

“Love yourself first”

What's your reaction to these?
Do you really understand them?
I’ll be the 1st to say - I never really did.

The last decade I've been “un-doing” a lot of bad practices whilst learning about self love.

I’ve had to make dramatic changes in my life, to create the dramatic change I sort.

To understand old bad patterns,

So to create new aligned ones.

..starting from looking without, (seeking worthiness & validation) because my “within” wasn’t a place love or safety lived.
A fact I’d completely overlooked, until the umpteen relationship breakdown when I did a retreat (out of mere desperation) and it hit me like a big smack in the face “I’m not loving myself, actually, I don’t even really know how to.”
Now.. was it just me?

Was I skipping class the whole month we were suppose to learn about love in school?!
Because I certainly didn’t learn a damn thing about it (honestly, didn’t seem like my friends did either, from how we lived) and wouldn’t this be considered one of the most important things to learn about?

Surely I couldn’t have been off hanging out with ‘the bad boy’ from school that whole time? -Quite the opposite to loving oneself as it turns out, but hey, that’s a big part of what led me here today.
Practicing self love.. And helping others practice it too!

What we seek externally, reflects our internal worlds.

Ever heard this?

We judge others only as badly as we are judging ourselves internally. 
Side note: Whether we’re concious of this or not, is a whole other story!

Meaning, the voice inside us that’s criticising others can only do so to the level & extent its learned to do so in you, from criticising yourself. (Consciously or subconsciously).
Soooooo

We love others, only as well as we are loving ourselves internally?

Whether we’re conscious of this, or not?

YES!!!!

Our inner world always reflects outward.

We see the world as who we are, not how it is.
How do YOU see the world? Or, perhaps before Valentines day, ask yourself this:

How do I see love? 

- Taryn Jade
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Constantly hearing things like

“Love starts with you”

“Love comes from within”

“Learn to love yourself”

  or

“Love yourself first”

What’s your reaction to these?

Do you really understand them?

I’ll be the 1st to say – I never really did.

The last decade I’ve been “un-doing” a lot of bad practices whilst learning about self love.

I’ve had to make dramatic changes in my life, to create the dramatic change I sort.

To understand old bad patterns, 

So to create new aligned ones.

..starting from looking without, 

(seeking worthiness & validation)

because my “within” 

wasn’t a place love or safety lived.

A fact I’d completely overlooked,

until the umpteen relationship breakdown when I did a retreat (out of mere desperation) and it hit me like a big smack in the face “I’m not loving myself, 

actually, I don’t even really know how to.”

Now.. was it just me?

Was I skipping class the whole month we were suppose to learn about love in school?!

Because I certainly didn’t learn a damn thing about it (honestly, didn’t seem like my friends did either, from how we lived) and wouldn’t this be considered one of the most important things to learn about?

Surely I couldn’t have been off hanging out with ‘the bad boy’ from school that whole time? -Quite the opposite to loving oneself as it turns out, but hey, that’s a big part of what led me here today:

Practicing self love..

And helping others practice it too!

What we seek externally,

reflects our internal worlds.

Ever heard this?

We judge others only as badly as we are judging ourselves internally. 

Side note: Whether we’re concious of this or not, is a whole other story!

Meaning, the voice inside us that’s criticising others can only do so to the level & extent its learned to do so in you, 

from criticising yourself. (Consciously or subconsciously).

Soooooo

We love others, only as well as we are loving ourselves internally?

Whether we’re conscious of this, or not?

YES!!!!

Our inner world always reflects outward.

We see the world as who we are, 

not how it is.

How do YOU see the world?

Or, perhaps before Valentines day,

ask yourself this:

How do I see love? 

– TJ

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  • Don’t do anything just because you can, or because it’s what you’ve always done that bores you. Give yourself permission to seek out new ways, new ideas, new hobbies, new paths, new inspirations. Often looking at what most scares you is a good place to start. Let thrilling fears surface. Living these will start changing your life.
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  • Don’t say no to anything just because you don’t believe in yourself. Imagine what you’d tell a friend in the same situation, encourage yourself in the same way. Try, even fail, and if so try again, or try something else. What’s worse is to never take a chance at all. Trust it will still give you something, and lead you somewhere new. Be honest, with yourself, then share your truth with the people around you with a warm heart, allowing your truths to change again. This helps you to live authentically and grow. Keeping you engaged in your own life.

  • When conversing, notice if you feel the subject giving to you, or taking from you? If it takes, change it. Pay extra attention to the subjects that light you up and you could talk about all day long, there is the door leading you to your passion. Many still ask “what do I want to do in life?” Here is the easiest way to reveal that, in day-to-day life, with the help of others!

    Question yourself, then answer yourself. You should be the person you talk most with every day. We are ever changing, growing and evolving. Let this be a method used to keep getting to know the new you.. it might even become what is shaping the new you.
    Our most valuable relationship is with ourself so start investing more in yourself.
    As we say here at Made Hot ‘only you can do you. We are all here to help, but it’s you who must do the work!’